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Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the skills and abilities that help you identify, understand, and manage your own emotions, as well as identify and empathize with the emotions of others. Whether online or in person, at work or at home, EI helps each of us build and maintain stronger and better relationships. Especially inspiring leaders can benefit greatly from the effective use of EI.
People with high EI are more likely to:
• Name, describe, and connect your emotions to help you understand and manage your reactions to stimuli and events. They are able to identify the underlying cause rather than trying to effectively address the symptoms and consequences. They are self-aware, outspoken, and healthily assertive.
• Know what they want and develop a plan to reach their goals. They have a better understanding of what drives them. They are more likely to understand what gives them joy and why. This means they are more likely to recognize their own values and understand their purpose in life.
• Remain calm even in difficult situations. By labeling their emotions and recognizing their emotions, people with high EI can learn how to manage their emotions instead of letting them hijack their thoughts. This can help them stay calm while others are scratching their heads.
• Decode their emotions. They practice making sense of certain emotions and, when necessary, redirect their emotional responses to more appropriate and beneficial places. You can recognize which emotions should be encouraged and which should be reconsidered.
• Reduces anxiety during stressful times. By understanding the causes of stress and identifying its symptoms, people with higher than average EIs are more likely to give stressful events another meaning or take more effective actions, such as advocating for themselves. Doing so will likely reduce your anxiety.
• Get along well with others. Actively listening to others, identifying their feelings and emotions, and empathizing with them can help people with a high her EI develop more trusting, long-lasting, mutually rewarding relationships . People with high EI are more likely to notice signals that others miss. These signals may include subtle changes in facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language, all of which help individuals respond quickly and beneficially, thereby building trust and intimacy. You can build
• Learn from mistakes and criticism. If someone asks for criticism and doesn’t fall apart when the feedback is negative, this indicates a high EI.The EI doesn’t make anyone feel cold or in pain. Rather, it helps us regulate our emotions, allowing us to listen to negative criticism and use it to improve rather than interpreting it as a personal attack.
• Be the voice of their heart, not the echo of their egos. They are able to recognize and follow the quiet voice of their own heart instead of listening only to the demanding and often false voice of their ego.
• Ask for help. People with high EI learn that asking for help is a sign of wisdom and empowerment, not just a sign of weakness that leads to disappointment, self-deprecation, and rejection.
• Focus on having the intended impact rather than the unintended impact. They can stop idling and patiently take a few deep breaths. Additionally, they learned to respond and ask questions based on compassion and consideration of how they were landing, instead of focusing solely on their agenda. Instead of telling others what to do, practice empathy and compassion accountability.
• Move from hypothesizing to appealing to your own curiosity. You refuse to take things personally and avoid stereotypes. They are always growing, developing and moving forward.
• Move from taking things personally and judging them unfairly to expressing curiosity, compassion and understanding. No one is completely right or wrong. People with high EI see opportunities for themselves to grow and evolve rather than dwell on taking things personally.
• Change the location of controls. Rather than wasting time on issues outside their control, they can focus on what they can influence and control.
EI development
To improve EI, you should know that EI has five main components:
• self-awareness
• self expression
• Interpersonal skills
• decision making
• stress management
Almost everyone has uneven levels of EI in these categories. Some of her EI levels are higher than others. To improve your EI, consider where your strengths are and where you can best improve. Make an effort to improve your development areas through your daily activities. Follow these first steps:
• enhance Develop self-awareness until you can observe your relationship with your thoughts and feelings as objectively as possible.
• Label Analyze your emotions and their underlying emotions and identify where they are in your body. Labeling them and identifying roadmaps in your body can help you pinpoint exactly what you’re feeling and what emotions triggered this feeling. Note how often you experience
• Understanding Triggers behind emotions. Which of your values weren’t respected? Name the main critical thinking you generated to give meaning to this particular event. Lower your trigger threshold By working on things, you can reduce the number and intensity of your impulsive reactions, and reduce the number of regrets you have later.
• Express your feelings and emotions. It’s healthy to talk or do something about your feelings and emotions. Do not bottle them up or retain their descriptions from someone who will benefit from it. Find your own opinion through the observation style).
•regulate Your emotional response so that you have time to choose between alternative actions. You can do this by pausing, exploring alternative perspectives, meditating, distracting yourself with a fun hobby, or asking for help.
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