Dear Annie: My son has left home several times in the past, but he has come back because life is not going well. A year ago my husband died, leaving my son and his wife and their baby living together to “take care of me.”
They took over my house with video games, clothes and garbage. At first she moved into her mother-in-law’s apartment, but now she has no money and lives in a motel room. Now they want to get back together with me. I don’t want my granddaughter to be homeless because she’s still a baby, but I can’t stand the constant drama her granddaughter brings, especially the verbal abuse. Even family counseling did not improve our situation.My friends and our counselors all advised me not to let them go back to my house. How can I help them without ruining my own life? — Space is required
Dear need space: If your son and his family move out, your relationship with them will only get worse. I will communicate your boundaries clearly and clearly to your son: it is your home, and you will not tolerate the disrespect they have treated you and your home.
It may not seem like it right now, but this boundary allows for a (SET ITAL) better (END ITAL) relationship with my son. Offer babysitting services to her granddaughter and let her know you can come to dinner as long as she treats you with respect. This should help them financially without taking a big toll on your mental peace.
Dear Annie: I have had anxiety for years. I’m thinking about going to counseling or trying medication, but I don’t know what to do. Most of the time I look fine. I can get through the day But 90% of the time I’m in danger. I’m starting to realize that I’m exhausted too. It destroyed my sleep. I wish I had more confidence, but I often find life boring. Sorry for such ramblings. Is there anything I can do? — Catastrophic Anxiety
Dear Crippling Anxiety: Let me assure you that you don’t “suck life”. These feelings of self-doubt and uncertainty are just your insecurities. And you are not alone in this battle. According to the World Health Organization, approximately 265 million people worldwide have anxiety disorders. It’s a very common, difficult, and sometimes paralyzing human condition, but you’re actually taking the right steps to manage it.
Revisit therapy, whether contacting a previous counselor or looking for a new one. Seeing lasting change takes time and patience, but don’t give up. As you said, medicine works too. Consider doing a physical exam and regular blood tests with your doctor first. Something physiological, especially related to sleep and mood, may play a role in anxiety.
Take some time each day to practice self-care in the way that works best for you. That might mean taking a long walk, meditating before starting your day, or calling a friend or family member to chat when you’re feeling tense. please Your insecurities are what you experience, they do not define who you are.
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