One day, a wise monk was walking in the village. A very angry and rude young man appeared and started insulting him. The monk continued walking, not paying attention to the insult, and the young man was furious at being ignored.
“Why don’t you say anything?” he demanded. “How can you keep walking so that I am silent?”
The monk stopped and asked the young man.
“I brought a gift, so it will be mine,” said the young man.
The monk smiled. “Yes, so is your anger. If you are angry with me and I am not insulted, it will come back to you. Only you will be unhappy, not me. You.” It’s all about you.” What you’ve done is hurt yourself. ”
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Every minute you go mad, you give up 60 seconds of peace of mind.
We all feel angry from time to time. It is normal for us to feel frustrated, attacked, or mistreated. Anger motivates people to identify problems, make changes, achieve goals, and stay safe.
Anger problems stem from how people deal with anger. Anger in the business scene requires special attention. Family and friends tend to be more generous. In business dealings, it often means the end of a relationship.
A natural way to express anger is to react aggressively and defend yourself when attacked. Then there are those who internalize their anger and begin to hate themselves, cutting themselves off from the world.
The American Psychological Association (APA) lists three main approaches to dealing with anger. “Expressing your angry feelings assertively rather than aggressively is the healthiest way to express your anger,” the association says. “Being assertive doesn’t mean imposing or demanding, it means respecting yourself and others.”
Anger suppression means suppressing anger, not thinking about it, or focusing on positive things. The problem with this approach is that anger turns inward and can lead to high blood pressure and depression.
Calming yourself means controlling your outward behavior and calming your emotions.
Take a deep breath, go for a walk, or do some other exercise. Keep your distance while you think of ways to resolve or improve the situation.
I have one final story to illustrate my point. A young lion and a cougar were thirsty and arrived at their usual watering hole at the same time. They soon began arguing over who should be the first to quench their thirst. rice field.
The emotions of the two stubbornly facing each other turned into rage. The brutal attacks on each other were abruptly interrupted. The two looked up. Circling overhead was a flock of vultures waiting for the loser to fall. Silently, the two beasts turned and left. The mere thought of being devoured could end a fight.
Don’t let your anger consume you. Instead, chew your anger.
McKay’s Lesson: It is better to choose what you say than to say what you choose.
Harvey Mackay is a businessman from Minneapolis. Contact him at 612-378-6202 or email harvey@mackay.com.
