On your wedding day, there are many things you should say to your future husband. Most of them probably revolve around the ridiculous memories we made together and the love I promised him for the rest of his life. I will probably cry when I thank his family for what they gave me and talk about his constant support for all the fleeting ideas I have.
However, there are some things I would like to say that only he gets. Something you can only understand while loving someone with anxiety or depression. He deserves to know everything I swear to him in a moment when I’m struggling with my mental health.
These are examples of wedding vows you might want to tell your future husband about anxiety and depression.
Here are seven vows that people with anxiety and depression should wish to make.
1. I promise your love will be a shining beacon of hope when I’m in my darkest place
The place you and I know is where I retreat to when my mental health hits hard. I promise you will be the reason I come back from there.
2. I promise to love you on bad days, but I love you more on good days
You could see me on my worst days and still be there. We promise to do all that and more to make sure you understand what you are looking for.
3. Promise to try and over-communicate on bad days.
You may feel that my anger and despair are your fault, but they are not. I know I feel upset because of you, but we both know it’s something deep inside me that’s causing me episodes of pain.
4. Commit to getting help and reaching out to people, including you, when things go wrong
Bad days are inevitable. We live in a world where things are happening all the time. I spiral, it’s hard to get out of bed, and it can be even harder to try to function regularly. I’m going to get myself back to normal so I can love you the way you deserve.
5. Promise to try and stop thinking you’re going to leave after every anxiety or depression attack
you are still here After all you’ve seen and heard, you’re still here. It means more to me than anything you have ever been able to achieve. My love with you makes everything a little easier and your power to hold me up when I’m down is the catalyst. I got
6. I promise all anxiety-induced quirks will be easier to deal with.
It is very annoying not being able to touch anything on the plate. I know it’s frustrating to measure a portion of your sandwich before you eat it. But I promise they won’t stand out forever. At least try to stop talking about them too much.
7. I Promise I’ll Never Leave You Behind
Neither now nor in the past. I’m not going anywhere I know you’re scared to talk about things that don’t make your life worthwhile. I know there are times when you think I’m going to leave you here and you have to deal with the aftermath after I leave. If only this love is the meaning of everything I’ve gained in this life, then I’m perfectly fine with that.
Loving someone with anxiety or depression is not easy, but together we know they are a part of me and our love is stronger than either. I’m here.
Alex Brown is a featured writer in Thought Catalog, The Mighty, and Teen Vogue. She writes about love, mental health, and wanderlust. She is the author of You, Me and Depression: The Battle of Mind vs. Mind.
