As a couples therapist with a focus on intimacy issues, I am concerned with helping people feel safe in relationships and encouraging, building and supporting secure bonds.
Most couples come to therapy for help because they are emotionally insecure or have experienced some form of betrayal of trust and the secure bond between them has been shattered. helps you understand how to communicate particularly effectively.
By building an emotional connection with your partner, you can foster security and a secure bond in your relationship. That means doing a few different things to improve communication in your relationship.
10 Ways to Build an Emotional Connection with Your Partner and Develop Communication Skills
1. Identify and name your feelings
The first step in recognizing your emotions is recognizing that you have them. Many men and some women can’t even recognize that they feel something.
When asked what he thinks, he answers, “I don’t know.” If you are human and you are alive, you have emotions.
2. Share your feelings with your partner
Once you have identified your feelings, you should share them with your partner. Your partner wants to know you. Your feelings are part of knowing you.
You can’t share what you don’t know. You can’t share who you are if you don’t know how you feel.
Learning about your emotions can help you learn how to connect with yourself emotionally and help you learn how to create emotional connections.
3. One person at a time, practice listening to share and understand
This technique helps people share one idea or perception at a time. One person shares her feelings first, then another one of her listens for understanding and repeats what she heard. If they are right, switch roles. If not, please try again.
4. Spend quality time together
Spend time together where you are emotionally, physically, and spiritually present with each other. Stay in the present moment.
5. Make your partner your 24/7 go-to
Find ways to make your partner feel like your number one priority.
Call back promptly. Send each other positive text messages throughout the day. Be creative.
6. Do what you say you will do
If you say to mow the lawn, mow the lawn. If you don’t intend to take out the trash before you leave for work, don’t indicate your intention to do so.
One word: keep your promises.
7. Love everything about your partner — including warts
Don’t point out their weaknesses. Embrace all of your partner’s odd quirks.
Remember that you have them too, and you want the same respect from your partner.
8. Building partners through words and actions
Be positive and help your partner be the best they can be. In turn, they help you become the best you can be.
9. Always turn your partner’s back
Don’t throw it under the bus. Building security and trust means protecting your partner and always standing together in all living situations.
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10. Protect your relationship from others
By protecting your relationship from others, it’s up to you both to make sure your relationship is strong and secure with each other, whether it’s the threats of your in-laws or flirtatious co-workers. .
Be sure to address threats to your marriage and relationships and make adjustments to strengthen your relationships beyond your personal needs.
By serving your marriage, you learn how to build emotional connections in a more stable and satisfying way.
Teresa Maples is a licensed mental health counselor who specializes in working with women who have experienced betrayal in their intimate relationships.